I’m finally coming out from behind my password-protected posts and announcing that the Accountant and I are having a baby!

Here’s the view from inside my belly:

Ultrasound
Just to clarify, that’s two pictures of one baby – no twins for us!

I’m now 13.5 weeks along, our immediate families know and are excited, and so there’s no longer any reason to be secretive.  All of my formerly password-protected posts are now public, so if you never requested the password and need to catch up, check out the posts tagged “TTC” and “pregnancy” to see what you missed!

The Accountant and I were incredibly lucky to have a short and easy TTC (trying to conceive) journey, and feel insanely lucky and excited and thrilled and all that good stuff to be expecting our first child.  The Baby is due to arrive on May 5, 2010.

I have officially entered month three, and am anxiously awaiting its end so we can shout our news from the rooftops and share our joy with everyone – our news that we will no longer be two, but three.

The first two months have been a bit of a whirlwind of exhaustion and nausea and constantly trying to find something to wear!  I’ve been feeling a bit better as of late, but there was a good stretch there that was really challenging.  I knew I would be sick, but I didn’t anticipate how hard it would be to feel so nauseous, all day, every day.  I also have had a lot of trouble sleeping, between the frequent trips to the bathroom to pee and the totally insane and vivid dreams.  I would gladly choose all of this discomfort over the alternative of not being pregnant at all, but holy moly, has this baby already started turning life upside down!

With week nine has come a little more comfort.  I am no longer constantly nauseous – still a little trouble in the morning, and again for the afternoon commute (never has my bus ride felt so long!!), but more manageable than before.  Still not sleeping my best, but I’ve gotten into a routine of a new early bedtime and drinking less water before bed to try to limit my late night bathroom trips.  I’ve also bought some bigger bras and pants and my first couple of maternity items to accommodate my ever-growing bust and middle, making it a little easier to find comfortable outfits to wear to work each day.

I have random moments of just feeling so dumfounded that we are here.  That we are really having a baby – that our first try worked – and I am just overcome with gratitude and happiness.

Which reminds me…the hormones.  Commercials make me cry.  Dvr’d episodes of Ellen make me cry.  My weekly emails from babycenter.com – Your baby is now the size of a grape! – make me cry.

The Accountant has been off the charts amazing.  When I’ve been too tired to do the laundry or too grossed out by food to cook (or even walk through the grocery store), she has picked up the slack and then some.  She brings snacks to me on the couch and emails me at work to see how I’m feeling.  She tucks me in when I need to go bed at 8:00 and puts the kettle on for my tea in the morning.

So that’s where we are.  Month three.  The Accountant, the baby, and me.

 

***Edited 11/1/09:***
This post was password-protected from the time it was published until 11/1/09.

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Hubby Hubby

Available in Vermont stores all month long!

Congratulations, Vermont – enjoy your equal rights with a side of yummy ice cream!

I’m pregnant.

I started my day with a positive test!  The Accountant and I are excited, shocked at our dumb luck, overjoyed, teary-eyed, smiley, and thrilled.  We are going to have a baby!

I had myself so mentally prepared for months and months of trying and waiting and stressing – I cannot believe that it worked.

On the other hand, I am relieved that I’m not crazy, because boy oh boy have I been having some symptoms!  My boobs and belly are already swelling, my appetite is already unusual, I was exhausted yesterday for no apparent reason, I’ve been breaking out and all around just feeling pregnant!  So thank goodness I’m pregnant and not insane and/or just getting fat!

Of course, I still feel some hesitancy – I know it is very early, and I’m just willing this little baby to stick with us.  And of course I am also re-re-doing our second bedroom in my mind to make room for baby…!

 

***Edited 11/1/09:***
This post was password-protected from the time it was published until 11/1/09.

I am in the Two Week Wait (2ww), which for me, thanks to my short LP, is only 1.5 weeks, but that doesn’t make it any less of a roller coaster.

For the first few days, I felt terrific.  I was just so excited by the possibility of being pregnant, that I wasn’t stressed or anxious.  It was great.

Then, I was convinced that I’m pregnant.  I couldn’t put my finger on exactly what it was, I just had this very certain feeling that it was working.

By the end of this past weekend, I was having doubts about being pregnant, but still feeling pretty positive.

Then yesterday, Monday, 9dpiui, my temperature took a nose dive.  A big one.  I knew that such a thing as an implantation dip existed…but how low could it be?  I felt kind of not pregnant.  I had the slightest almost-not-really cramping sensation.

Then last night, I consulted FF (yes, the same FF I told to “suck it” – ahem).  I did a little search in the chart gallery (um, how much do we love that you can just type in parameters for the type of charts [from real women!] that you want to see, and it just finds them???) for charts of women who got pregnant with IUIs that had implantation dips.  And what do you know?  I found charts with women with major nose dive temp drops just like mine that went on to have a major spike the next day, followed by a positive pregnancy test 1-4 days later!!  The clouds parted! Angels sang!

Of course, I took a pregnancy test.  It was negative.  The Accountant asked me if I was sure it had been 3 minutes – it had.  But that’s okay!  There is still time!  FF says so!!

And then…this morning…my temperature ROCKETED BACK UP! Wahoo!

So I’ve had what appears to be a classic implantation dip, along with light implantation cramping, and two negative tests (of course I did one last night and one this morning – don’t judge).  Other possible symptoms, which have been pretty consistent during the 2ww: BLOATING like ohmygodI’veneverbeensobloatedWTF, breast tenderness, crazy-ass dreams at night, and breaking out like a teenager (<– ew…that doesn’t usually happen to me with PMS).

Today, I would normally have spotting before my period would arrive tomorrow…  We’ll see what happens!

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Acronyms, Definitions & Explanations
2ww – The time between ovulation/insemination and when you find out if it worked…either your period comes, or you’re pregnant.
LP – Luteal phase.  The time between ovulation and your period.
9dpiui - 9 days post IUI
IUI – intrauterine insemination
Fertility Friend (FF) - website where you can keep track of your charts

 

***Edited 11/1/09:***
This post was password-protected from the time it was published until 11/1/09.

Ta da!

2nd Bedroom - Looking In

 

Problem 1: Depressing wall color – solved!  Due to my sub-par digital camera and the unfortunate lack of natural light on a cloudy Boston afternoon, the wall color proved  very difficult to photograph.  The color we chose is a light, bright green - Celery Sprig by Behr:

Celery Sprig - Behr

 

Problem 2: Less than thrilling Ikea curtain panels – solved!  This is really more like what I originally had in mind for this room.  The panels we had were just too chopped up.  I love the soft, clean feel of this curtain wall:

2nd Bedroom - Curtain Wall


Problem 3:
The positioning of the bed – solved!  The bed is now against the wall opposite the windows, with room to get in and out on either side, so no one has to crawl to get into bed.  Lesson learned: when you put a queen size bed in a roughly 11′x11′ room, don’t try to hide it – embrace it.

This area needs some finishing touches:

2nd Bedroom - Guest Bed

The wall looks very yellow above, though the bedding color is accurate – go figure.  I am currently at a loss on throw pillow colors…waiting for inspiration.

Here’s the view from the bed in its new spot:

2nd Bedroom - View from Bed

I’ll be covering the open back of the bookshelf (same one we had – just laid on its side!) with some cute fabric, so you won’t be able to see through it (example of a similar idea here).

Bookshelf detail:

2nd Bedroom - Bookshelf

 

Problem 4: Giant-ass desk – solved! As you may recall, our old desk was a table top and legs from Ikea’s Vika line. For $20, I was able to get the same table top in a smaller size. We stashed the old, big top in the basement of our apartment house in case we ever find use for it again. The smaller desk provided more flexibility for the floor plan, making the new furniture arrangement possible!

2nd Bedroom - Desk Area

 

Thus concludes my Second Bedroom Birthday Makeover project!  I will of course delight you with photos of the finishing details as they come together. 

I’m overall really pleased with the final effect for the amount of effort and money the Acountant and I put into this project.  We spent less than $200 (and our incredible landlord actually reimbursed us for paint), and I feel like we have a whole new room. 

This Housewife’s birthday was just about a month ago, and for my present, I requested The Accountant’s participation in some home improvement:  We did a little makeover of our filled-to-the-max second bedroom!

Our second bedroom serves multiple purposes.  It is an office, a guest room, the Accountant’s closet, the place we hang-dry our laundry, and the place where we iron and get ready for work in the morning.  In addition, we store lots of things there, like the extension leaf for our dining room table, my various craft supplies, excess luggage, our off-season coats, and our books.  All this, in less than 121 square feet.  It is nothing short of a triumph that we fit everything in there when we moved into our apartment in June 2008.

After living with the room for a year, I had lots of ideas about how to improve it.  The purpose of the makeover was to solve a few problems…

1. The wall color was depressing me.

Second Bedroom

You can see it there above the closet door on the left – a rather unimpressive off-white.  Blah.

2. The Ikea curtain panels were no longer thrilling me.

The picture above was taken not long after the panels were installed.  Sadly, after a year of wear and tear, they were looking a little sad, and perhaps, were never that great in the first place.  They served the purpose (hiding the Accountant’s clothes storage), but fell a little flat.

3. The positioning of the bed was less than ideal.

Office - Bed

The queen size guest bed was shoved against a wall. This was because I originally planned to treat it like a daybed, with pillows along the wall, making it serve as a big couch when not in use by guests.  But, we ended up with this Ikea bed (a bargain craigslist find after we discovered the bed frame we really wanted was discontinued), which, due to the headboard, doesn’t exactly work as a daybed.  Plus, we had overestimated the size of the room from the start – a queen size bed in a room so small can’t really be “tucked aside.”  The positioning of the bed was fine for friends  of ours who used it, but for, say, my in-laws…?  Neither of them should have to crawl in and out of bed.

4. The big ol’ desk…

Office - Desk

Okay, it may not look that big in this picture, but that is a 29.5″x59″ desk in a roughly 11′x11′ room.  Too big!  Of course, I had my reasons for getting a desk that large.  When we moved into this apartment (our first two bedroom place!), I had visions of the Accountant and I each having our own small desk in the office.  Even with our overestimation of the size of the room, it became clear that two desks weren’t feasible, so we opted for one large one (Ikea Vika- mix and match legs and table top), thinking we could work side by side.  Well, the reality is that the Accountant prefers to work sitting on her recliner or at the dining room table, otherwise she’ll sit at the desk, and I’ll use her laptop or my ipod on the guest bed.  So we ended up with this large desk in this little room for no reason whatsoever. 

With my list of grievances in mind, I browsed paint samples, created an account on floorplanner.com (which is fabulous and free, by the way), and got to planning!

The project is now just about complete, and pictures are soon to come!  Stay tuned!

So while the IUI did go off without a hitch – it’s my chart that’s the problem.

BBT charting can get thrown off by any change in routine, and August, for us, has been anything but routine.  We were out of town for the first weekend (check) (plus I was drinking that weekend – unusual for me (check)), and then five days later we traveled by airplane (check) and were away for four days (check), followed by more flying (check).  We were home for three days before our insemination, and then the night of the IUI (and my assumed ovulation) we went to see a play and didn’t get home until late (check), which probably effected my day after IUI temp, which is a really important one to get right…  So needless to say, my chart is kind of a disaster.

Fertility Friend, it all its wisdom, claims to analyze all of the data you enter to figure out your ovulation date and rate your chances of success, but I think it relies too heavily on BBT.  If you don’t pay attention to my temperature, all other signs point to me ovulating on Saturday.  But Fertility Friend still insists that I ovulated on Friday, thus labeling my chances of conceiving from our Saturday IUI as “Low.”  What about my positive opk on Friday, FF?  What about my ewcm on Saturday?

Another issue - FF doesn’t account for what time things happen, just the day.  I recorded a postive opk on Friday in FF, but what FF doesn’t know is that Friday morning my test was negative – it was Friday afternoon when it turned positive (which is usual for me – I always surge in the afternoon).  So even if I did ovulate on Friday, it would have been Friday night, and our IUI was on Saturday morning, which would still be within about 8 hours (roughly) of ovulation.  So you know what?  Suck it, Fertility Friend.  We’re remaining hopeful, “low” or not.  I’m doing my best to just put it all out of my mind, and go with the flow.

Eight days to testing…

P.S. Thanks again to the lovely ladies at “1 in Vermillion” for the additional encouragement about short LPs!  It’s so great to hear another success story!

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Acronyms, Definitions & Explanations
IUI – intrauterine insemination
BBT - basal body temperature; Must be taken at the same time every morning.  A tool to track cycles.
Fertility Friend (FF) - website where you can keep track of your charts
ewcm – “egg white” cervical mucus;  Appears on the most fertile days.
opk – ovulation predictor kit; You get a positive test when a certain hormone in your body surges, warning you that ovulation is coming, probably within 12-24 hours.

 

***Edited 11/1/09:***
This post was password-protected from the time it was published until 11/1/09.

This morning was our first IUI!

We were excited and nervous and happy, and everything went off without a hitch.  The Accountant pushed the plunger and then we sat there for 20 minutes, my hips propped up on pillows, willing it to work, and thinking of the possibilities.

I was a little nervous over the past day because while thumbing through one of my lesbian-getting-knocked-up books, I realized that I might have a problem on my hands – I have a short luteal phase, which could mean a progesterone imbalance that could make it hard for me not to conceive, but to maintain a pregnancy.  Suddenly there was a possible obstacle that I hadn’t yet considered, and it was a little scary.  I felt better after some reassurance from a friend with a short luteal phase who got pregnant on her third try and maintained the pregnancy (phew!).  Then today I consulted the midwife about it.

It seems my luteal phase length is right on the cusp of what is considered “enough.”  So at this point, we’ll just cross our fingers and see how it goes.

I’m due for my period on the 26th, so we will probably do a pregnancy test a day or two before that.

I don’t know how we’re going to stand the wait!

 

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Acronyms, Definitions & Explanations
IUI - intrauterine insemination
luteal phase – the time in your cycle between ovulation and the start of your period

 

***Edited 11/1/09:***
This post was password-protected from the time it was published until 11/1/09.

**EDITED 7/22:  I realized that in my haste, I got some of the details wrong (oops!), they are edited below in bold.**

Apparently, I said “I can’t believe how regular my cycle has been off bcp!” one too many times. 

In May and June, I ovulated on CD19 and CD18, respectively.  This was putting me in perfect range to avoid ovulating when we are going to be out of town in August for a family commitment, with room for error.  I was thrilled.  Until…

My temp spiked .5 degrees (significant!!) on CD16…before I had even started doing opks (I had planned to start that day)!  So of course I did what any level-headed woman a month out from her first planned ttc round, which she has been counting down to forever would do – I cried.  With my ovulation coming so early, depending on the length of my luteal phase (would that be different too??), I could ovulate smack in the middle of when we are going to be out of town, and miss our first planned-for, highly anticipated insemination.  CD16 was what I would call a bad day.

On CD17, my temp dropped back down, and my opks (just one in the morning, and one in the afternoon – I didn’t go crazy!) were negative – another bad day, but I was trying to remain zen.  CD18….positive opks!!  The corresponding temp shift followed, and here I am at CD21 feeling much better about life in general.

And so the roller coaster of ttc begins…

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Acronyms, Definitions & Explanations
bcp – birth control pills
cd – cycle day
ttc - trying to conceive
luteal phase – the time in your cycle between ovulation and the start of your period

 

***Edited 11/1/09:***
This post was password-protected from the time it was published until 11/1/09.

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